When is it too soon to say i love you
Did He Say "I Love You" Too Soon? Here's How to Respond
- So the past three months have been really great.
Yeah, I totally agree.
And I love you.
Ah.
That, my sexy, single ladies is that awkward moment
when someone tells you that they love you
when you're not quite there yet,
and contrary to popular opinion and according
to a recent study that came out, men actually fall
in love much sooner than women.
So if you've ever been in a situation like this
where a guy just dives in too deep, too quickly,
way too soon, then keep watching this video
'cause I'll tell you exactly how to respond.
Keep watching.
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Hey there, Adam Lodolce from sexyconfidence.com
where I help you create your love story,
and this was a recent question I received
from one of my love accelerator clients.
We have a private community forum where they can connect
with me at any time of day and ask me any question
that they ever could ask about love, dating, relationships,
and men, and this woman asked this question.
How does one handle it when he says I love you too soon?
Like within a few weeks of dating?
One of these was even after three months of courting,
but we had just started dating exclusively
and I was not there.
It almost feels like this is a sort of manipulation
to pressure me into saying it back
which I don't and tying me down.
Well, believe it or not, this is very common
and this actually becomes even more common with a lot
of my clients as they start
to apply the little love steps to their life.
As you start to learn our pacing strategies
which is slowing things down, men actually even want
to speed things up sooner, but this is also true
across the board that men tend to fall in love sooner
than women, and we don't know exactly why this is the case,
but my theory is that men tend to be much more
I want it now, they want stimulation quickly,
whereas women tend to be a little bit more risk-averse,
and I should say that you should follow your instinct
of being risk-averse and slowing things down.
Very rarely do I ever see there being problems
with slowing things down, and more often than not,
I see problems where people just dive in too quickly.
So follow that intuition.
So now the question is what do you say to these guys?
Well, in this question,
there are two very distinct different scenarios.
The first one is you've only been seeing each other
for two weeks which is very different
than the second scenario where you've been seeing
each other exclusively for three months.
So let's start with the first one.
If you've only been seeing each other for a few weeks
and someone has the gall to say, I love you, at that stage,
just go with a total deflection strategy such as like,
whoa, whoa, whoa, hold your horses, buddy.
We barely even know each other, and just kind of laugh it
off a little bit, and by the way, those little sensors
up there that should be looking out for red flags
everywhere you go should be red hot, screaming red flag
if someone is telling you that they love you
having only known you for a couple weeks.
So shrug it off, deflect it, even make a little bit
of a joke about it, and then from that point forward,
be very, very cautious.
Typically, when guys dive in that quickly,
they tend to be very emotionally volatile
because they just follow every single impulse they have,
and this is going to be the type of guy where
if you just dive in head first with this guy,
it might end up being a good couple months maybe.
It might be all over the map,
but it'll still be a couple months, but once it burns out,
he's then gonna move onto the next relationship.
This is why I teach the little love steps,
and little love step number five
is called pace the progression of your connections.
Slow things down because it enables you
to create a real connection with each other,
not just a connection based on lust.
Now let's jump onto the second scenario
which is you've been dating this guy
for the past three months, it's exclusive,
things seem to be going pretty well,
but now he just told you he loves you
and you're not sure if you feel the same way.
The reason why this is different than the first scenario is
because it's within reason that someone could be falling
for another person after three months.
Now, this doesn't mean you need to reciprocate
in this situation and I do not recommend you ever
tell someone that you love them unless you actually mean it.
So what I recommend you do is not do a deflection strategy,
but instead an affirmation strategy.
Affirm how you feel about him and the relationship.
Tell him that you've really enjoyed getting to know him
and you'd like to explore things further.
Something kind of like this.
Look, I think you're amazing too, and I'm excited to see
where this goes, but I'm at a stage in my life
where I don't want to just dive in too quickly.
Those words mean a lot to me and I just want
to continue getting to know you
before I'm able to fully respond.
What this does is communicates to him
that you are being very intentional
and being smart about your love life.
More importantly, it's telling him that you care.
I mean, you actually care about him.
You're not going to just deflect, you're not going
to just try to avoid any conversation about that.
You're just being real with him and everything I just said
should probably be true about your life, and if you're
at a point in your life where you are ready
to attract that man and that relationship
that will last the rest of your life,
then I recommend you learn the little love steps.
I have a free training at littlelovesteps.com
where you can just dive right in.
I'm going to teach you the seven little love steps,
and this is a proven path to go from being single,
lost, alone, scared in love and dating all the way
to attracting that relationship
that is fully aligned with your life vision.
So head on over there.
We'll also leave a link in the description
that you can check out, and finally,
I want to hear from you in the comments below.
Have you ever been in a relationship
where a guy says I love you way too fast?
How did you respond?
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you sexy, single lady, next week, buh-bye.
