When is it too soon to marry someone
Marriage and Relationships: How Soon is Too Soon?
what up what up what up this means me it
is the ACPs ken Masters the ace of
spades your friendly 12:45 music
representative and I am here with really
divine gotta get our intro or something
yeah my name is that's yeah nice so lame
let's see I I have the intro because you
have the clothes I don't have the
clothes clothes yep oh yeah whatever you
always look nice I just wear t-shirts
and should I have on jeans I don't well
yeah so we're here episode to
unconventional couple so without further
ado I'm gonna jump right into it with
people people get married after like a
year and knowing somebody oh wow listen
this is the face of someone who doesn't
care right here this face right here
don't care anyway personally I'm not a
huge like marriage guys but like for
those who do it you know good for you
pull my parents didn't her parents
didn't you know people do it oh well
like you get married after like a year
and then five years down the road you're
just like you know oh I don't know who
they are anymore so many things have
changed
well that's because you didn't know who
they were to begin with you don't you
don't know someone in a year okay you
just I just don't
in our experience our opinion in our
opinion you need to get to know each
other better you cannot know someone
enough any air it's impossible
absolutely
and even if you think again our opinion
even if you think you know this person
late a lot a lot they're gonna think
you're wrong and either you're wrong or
you're right right now and they're gonna
change because you guys are gonna have
experiences together that will change
you exactly
and the like from our personal
experience no we're not married but
we've been together for 10 years and
that never gets any easier and we have
changed so much since we were sophomores
in college well you were I was just kind
of hanging around and we have changed a
lot since I was a sophomore in college
there we go
especially like people who meet and they
you know they're like 19 20 you meet
either they're like high school
sweethearts or like they're you know
they meet freshmen sophomore year at
college or something like that like you
don't know who that person is because
they don't know who they are why are you
staring at me like that you're talking
okay I don't know I've been trained to
believe that you think I'm an idiot at
all times
oh yeah you know I'm saying like they're
still developing who they are
so there's no way that you could know
who they are they're constantly changing
so I just think that's insanity to me
you're gonna sign a 4life contract some
NW oceans and right that's good oh you
wanna sign a contract and be like till
death do us part
yes are you really gonna take Jesus took
what could be
this this is why would you married then
I can't even have my own come down
anyway um but yeah like that's that's
insanity
that's insanity like and then you know
there's there's a whole concept of
you're not supposed to cohabitate before
marriage again that's insane
do you know how many little things a
person does when they're in the privacy
of their own home that can drive you
batshit insane
he cleans as air is every two seconds I
mean every like right now right now my
ears kind of bother me like I would like
to clean them right now right as we're
talking like on camera I want to clean
my ears I'm not going to don't go
anywhere I'm not going to but I want to
little things and like you pile on a
bunch of little things paper is not that
heavy individually but you put a good
stack of that together and it starts to
get a little heavy dog could you imagine
it's like literally everything that
someone did on a normal basis their
morning routine everything about it
drove you nuts
but you didn't find out until after you
said I do why why would you spend
$20,000 on a car and you don't know
nothing about it
no people won't even spend $60 on a game
they don't know nothing about but you
mean to tell me that you're gonna stick
with somebody for life this person is
gonna be the mother or father of your
kids and you haven't even stayed in a
crib for a week say that out loud
I'll wait
doesn't that sound crazy that sounds
insane I mean like I said I'm a I've
seen marriage work um you know my boy
rube his parents just celebrated at 31st
wedding anniversary
love them to death awesome people but
you always work brah
it is work I'm absolutely sure they
didn't like each other every single day
well in a relationship you're not gonna
like each other every single day
impossible you pretty much have to fall
in love with the person over and over
yeah like you don't just fall in love
with someone and love them the same way
every single day you're gonna hate this
person one day you're gonna love this
person the next day you're gonna think
this person is amazing one day that
you're gonna think this person's a
[ __ ] idiot
the next day like it is a constant job
essentially like you're you have to put
forth a lot of effort just because
you're getting married or just business
person proposed to you or just because
you're living with this person or just
because you're getting along with this
person right now doesn't mean it's gonna
be like this forever and I think a lot
of people don't think about that
like there's nothing wrong with being
with someone for long-term before
getting married there's nothing wrong
with that I hate when I hear people say
like oh how long I've been together
three years two years five years and he
married you yet yeah the proposed shut
up shut up you've been engaged for how
long like okay I get to know this person
first we're both completely different
people from when we first started
meeting and if we had gotten married
Oh God even if we had gotten married
when I graduated two years later it
still would have been a mess absolutely
it would have been a huge mess
and we would have got I will boo guys
divorced or something like it would have
been a super mess because there is this
pressure to be this amazing couple when
you're Mary there's this pressure to
make everything work and to not be a
failure and you're when you're married
and it's silly it's silly absolutely if
you just focus on the person and do what
you feel is right and take your time
there's absolutely no rush at any of
them there's no rush in getting married
there's no rush and having babies you're
the one putting pressure on that and
that's why things tend to fail yeah and
your mom who can't allow other people's
expectations for themselves to change
the way you look at me yeah I know
dictate your choices exactly like just
because someone else wants to be married
by a certain time and have kids by a
certain time or whatever they're
scheduled to is if they're trying to
impose that on you you have to
immediately and and passionately tell
them to shut the [ __ ] up and live their
life while you live yours you know I'm
saying like you cannot allow or those
people like especially like older folks
I'll be the first ones to tell you you
know you gotta get married you gotta
have grandbabies and this day and a
third tell me tell me shut the [ __ ] up
tell them thank you for having my mom
and dad and you know whoever whatever
and getting me here thanks but shut up
seriously because that might not be for
you that might not be your cat and
that's okay yeah like that's fine but
the amount of times people have asked us
oh when are you guys getting
oh when are you having kids never hold
it oh ho
you can drop dead at this moment we have
no interest in getting married or having
children oh I'm good so don't rush into
marriage it does not make anything
better to take your time get to know
each other and it'll happen there's no
rush
unless the Stein is crashing into Earth
oh yeah totally get married then just go
ahead bang that out you know so I get it
off your bucket list know you'll find
the time but you have time yeah just
enjoy each other yeah enjoy each other
and you will have a much much better
relationship in our opinion in our oh
yeah you know um once again it's been a
unconventional couple episode in me
saying I am still Ken masses the ace of
spades she is still why not
well you have to sign out people need to
know who you are
whatever what were unconventional we
don't do what other people do oh my gosh
start over
what do you mean stop no now we got to
find out whatever this has been episode
two you know I'm saying why no no you
know what I'm saying
why don't you keep y'all see this is why
I need to be over your shoulder you know
I'm saying why are you saying you don't
wanna say because other nice things
people say I say that okay why do you
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