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6 Ways Introverts Can Survive a Party

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there's psych2go reason why introverts

aren't usually particularly fond of

parties

too much stimulation and small talk but

not enough authenticity and quiet

and yet like most things in life

sometimes parties are inevitable

so why do we do it why do we spend long

friday nights out feeling lonelier than

when we're alone

because despite hating the peer pressure

we face making bad decisions

we hate not participating even more we

hate not knowing

but there are ways to make good

decisions and enjoy parties

rather than seeing them as mere social

obligations

introverts unite shares with you six

ways to survive parties as an introvert

one know when it's worth it to go out

it's okay to be selective about which

parties to attend

in fact it's smart to choose what works

best for you

you don't have to go to every event

you're invited to it's similar to dating

if we spent all our time trying to date

everyone

it would lose meaning we're not

compatible with every person that we

meet

and the same applies to parties it's

okay to skip out on weddings

dinners and social gatherings for people

you barely know

it's also perfectly fine to ditch common

places such as coffee shops and bars if

they're not your thing

there are many great underrated spots

that you can still go to

and meet people but social events you

shouldn't miss out on

are special occasions with close friends

and family networking opportunities for

work

and your own celebrations spending time

with people who matter to you

is important two arrive early if you can

it's tempting to show up late when you

don't want to stay for too long

but you can always arrive early and

leave early too

when you arrive early there will be less

people at the party

this can take pressure off you compared

to arriving in the middle of a party

when it gets too crowded

arriving early also gives you a chance

to explore the environment and know

where everything is

if you identify as an introvert with

social anxiety

this can especially come in handy

because the more prepared you feel the

less anxious you will feel

it's like testing out the waters before

fully diving in

remember you don't ever have to fully

commit to being somewhere if you feel

uncomfortable

what matters is that you're stepping out

of your comfort zone and trying

three find a hiding spot and take

frequent breaks in between

you see it all the time in movies the

socially awkward teenager finds a quiet

spot away from the party

and that's when they stumble upon

someone they click with it's not too

different in real life either

like-minded people travel together since

it's easy for introverts to feel over

stimulated

it's important to find time in between

for themselves

whether that means stepping out into the

cold air for a while or going to a quiet

corner far away from the music and dance

floor

just a few minutes can do wonders

utilizing hiding spots is good for your

health

4. focus on something manageable

it can be overwhelming when people jump

from topic to topic in conversations

small talk can also be painful and

difficult to get through

but nothing ever really goes the way we

think or want it to go

instead of dreading interacting with

people you can embrace the challenges as

they come

recognize that you do have what it takes

to make a connection with others

it might take a few tries awkward pauses

and bad jokes

but the fact that you can struggle

together with other people means that

you're not alone

people put up fronts all the time but

truthfully

others feel just as intimidated as you

to break the ice

find one thing you have in common and

run with it conversations are more

manageable when you can relate to one

another

five make an escape plan when you start

to feel your battery running low

know that you can always leave the party

early thank the host for inviting you

and come up with a good excuse to leave

it doesn't have to be a big exaggerated

lie

sometimes honesty is the best way to go

tell them that you had a good time but

that it's been a long day for you and

you need to get home and get some rest

or let them know that you have to get up

early the next morning and you want to

get home in a decent hour

people won't find it rude if you remind

them that you're human and can only do

so much in one day

they will understand because we've all

been there

and six continue giving parties a chance

it's okay if you don't have fun at every

function

but don't completely rule parties out

for one lousy experience

it just means you haven't found the

right people you click with

parties weren't intentionally made on

earth to make anyone feel

excluded or worse about themselves we

all want to feel like we belong

you may find that especially challenging

as an introvert when your first reaction

is wanting to hide in this predominantly

extroverted world

and that's to be expected it's a defense

mechanism for survival purposes

the walls you build feel familiar and

safe

but haydn gets old over time

haruki murakami writes you can keep as

quiet as you like

but one of these days somebody is going

to find you

maybe you don't always know how to

approach people or start conversations

without making them awkward

but continue giving social events a

chance

continue giving people a chance just

when you're on the verge of giving up on

socializing

all together you might just meet someone

who wants to hear stories

about the times you've struggled they

exist i promise

i'm one of them what do you think how do

you survive parties as an introvert

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