- I told someone I loved him a week after us dating.
I'm starting to get hot, this story.
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- The quickest I ever said "I love you" to someone
was my high school boyfriend because he said it
first at like 3 weeks in.
- Okay, I think 6 months.
- 6 months.
- Certainly not early, 3 months?
- 2 months into a relationship.
- My first love in 7th grade.
It only lasted a summer, but I'm sure within that summer
we dropped the "L-bomb" a few times.
- A year?
- I'm not the one to say it first.
- But I always feel it first.
- [Voiceover] I flew across the country to New York
and after about 5 days, we were in cab on the
Queensborough Bridge and I just had to say it.
- We were at a rave.
- We were high school loves that did end up happening
but at the time I was like
- I think the first time that we said it was actually
through, like, messaging.
- Like a sea of people in the stand and we were
up in the stadium and I was like, "I love you."
- And my vision just went red, because I was like,
"What did I just do? I just said that!"
But he said it back, so it was good.
- [Voiceover] It can be too soon to tell someone
that you love them.
- It is when you're young.
You're just so excited to be in love with somebody
because you haven't been in love with somebody before,
so you're like, oh maybe this feeling of super-infatuation
is love, I'm just gonna say that it's love.
- I feel like you gotta wait.
It's gotta really mean something, you know.
It's gotta count.
- If you were in a monogamous exclusive relationship,
I don't think its every really too soon
if you actually feel that way.
- I think that if you're really in-tune with your partner,
you kind of sense when the right time - or you have like
a range when the right time is to say it.
- When you know, you know, but
you're afraid to tell the other person.
You know, it's more like an understanding of
a conversation you need to have.
- If you're legitimately in love with someone,
and it's like legit, then it's okay to tell them
whenever you want.
If you're gonna harm your relationship by telling
someone that you love them too soon,
then there's a lot of other issues going on.
- At then end of the day, you should have a
"Oh, why did I say that?" versus a, "What if...?"
Because that person could get hit by a bus
and then you're gonna regret not saying it.
You're never gonna know if they felt it back.
- I think you should say, "I love you" without expecting
anything in return.
- If you say it too soon,
sometimes there's nothing wrong with that.
- I feel like the beautiful thing with"I love you"
is that you can say it in a bunch of different ways.
"Don't forget an umbrella, it's raining."
The little things you do,
like brushing someone's hair back behind their ear,
getting that piece of food out of their teeth.
- When you feel it, you feel it, right?
- I don't know, I don't know
when you actually know you're in love.
Maybe when you have the strength
to say that you're in love.