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When It's Time to Leave a Relationship

if the relationship has crossed over a

point where it's become controlling or

violent or abusive then that

relationship needs to go it needs to be

released and if you stay in such a

relationship no harm really if you're

willing to ask yourself why am I staying

in this relationship relationships are

so tricky aren't they I mean they pose

the greatest challenge to us and the

reason why they do is because I believe

relationships pose as a mirror to our

own inner self so all the ways that we

haven't grown in our own life they're

going to be reflected in that

relationship but a lot of why we feel

the way we do in relationships is

because we're carrying this baggage from

childhood and we're repeating the

dynamic in the relationship I always say

that we are addicted to this repetition

of patterns to recreating emotional

experiences from our childhood that have

now become a pattern by habit and we get

addicted to it we don't realize it you

see we think oh I fell in love with

someone new how am I feeling the same

way the reason you're feeling the same

way is because that way hasn't been

resolved inside you you haven't healed

what you came here to heal and you're

skipping from one relationship to the

other and not learning the lesson you

need to learn the relationship is a

mirror for you to grow now having said

that if you're in a relationship where

you simply feel that you cannot grow

well then that is a sign for you that

maybe this relationship is not the right

fertile ground where you can grow

right now and it's really important for

us to learn to have boundaries to

release relationships that do not serve

up is good if the relationship is one

where both can grow then I believe that

relationship is important to stay in and

to learn the lessons you came to learn

even if it's poking you even if it's

jabbing you even if it's showing you

parts of yourself that you don't want to

see it's good you see parts of your

shadow that need to be healed use the

relationship to grow but if the

relationship has crossed over a point

where it's become controlling or violent

or abusive then that relationship needs

to go it needs to be released and the

reason why most people stay in toxic

chronically abusive relationships is

because they're codependent because they

simply cannot stay and stand in their

sovereign self they are enmeshed and

extremely needy to be in that dynamic to

be in that abusive relationship so if

the codependent person is willing to

look at themselves in the mirror and

learn through that abusive relationship

then they are benefiting but typically

those relationships are so abusive that

the codependent person simply needs to

leave and then learn their lesson so it

depends on every particular relationship

each relationship poses different

challenges but the fundamental quality

that stays

to all relationships is that they are

here to be a mirror to your own

prediction patterns to your emotional

experiences

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