When is it time to have the relationship talk
PART ONE: When Should You Define the Relationship?
so one user recently asked a question on
the ask reddit forum about when is the
appropriate time to define the
relationship you know the big question
right so say you've been dating somebody
for some time now it's been three weeks
or so maybe even longer things are going
really well you don't know if you guys
are boyfriend/girlfriend you don't know
if you guys are exclusive you don't know
what the situation is so you want to ask
but is it too soon but you're afraid if
you don't ask you might end up in a
situation where you're catching feelings
and that person doesn't want to be in a
relationship so it's a very important
question to ask I want to ask ladies
when is the right time to ask what are
we honey what are we what are we doing
are we exclusive all of them I'll play
them games you hit this twice we go
together
by whites twice three times a lady okay
oh you better got they all what's your
point you know and I've said it before
like no one's hittin unless we are the
Builder but I think also at this point
in my life like I'm not dating to just
like enjoy each other's company
you know like cuz that used to be a
thing you know like we're just enjoying
each other's energies it's an energy
exchange and at this point it's like if
I am dating you like I am dating for the
purpose of meeting somebody that I want
to have a meaningful long-term
relationship with like that so if that's
not something you're is that that
something that you want for yourself
then it feels like that we shouldn't
date when you had that conversation you
honestly I have that conversation offer
it but and having that conversation
right now tell me if I'm wrong I don't
think that you should want to be in a
relationship with somebody who you're
afraid to ask or you feel uncomfortable
okay King where we are in the
relationship like that that's just set
the tone that maybe we shouldn't be if I
don't even feel comfortable enough to be
vulnerable they're like what are we
doing
yeah or that feels like I'm lying on a
shell I think it's just it's not that
they don't feel comfortable with the
relationship it's just the first it's
the actual first step yeah I crave ulnar
Balai just horrible yeah I was horrible
horrible at dating because I didn't you
know I didn't do that lot so I can
remember when I was dating Adam within
like two or three weeks I thought we
were dating exclusively like naive and I
remember I was trying to get a hold from
one day and Tim was like what is wrong
with you he's probably dating someone
else like relax and she actually was
right though so that's the way he had a
mean rotation he actually
