When is it the end of a marriage
Signs Of The End Of A Marriage
contrary to popular belief there's no
sign that a marriage is over
there are signs that your marriage is in
trouble and that it should probably be
looked into or fixed but there's no sign
that the marriage is over and absolutely
can't be saved huh
how can I say this but what if my
husband has had an affair multiple times
what if my wife has left and she's not
coming back she won't even talk to me
what if we just have two completely
different personalities and we married
the wrong people or what if fill in the
blank whatever it might be there are
signs that your marriage might be in
trouble but we believe at marriage
helper that any marriage can be saved no
matter what the current situation is or
no matter what has happened in the past
a lot of times when people are looking
for signs that their marriage is over
many times they walk away feeling more
discouraged than ever before because
while they're looking to see if maybe
their marriage is falling into this
pattern into this ultimate reality this
outcome that they don't want and they're
fearful because they don't want their
marriage to be over but then they read
an article or they hear a podcast or
whatever it might be and every single
thing is applying to their marriage and
it's easy to give up hope but at
marriage helper we believe that any
marriage can be saved and we believe
that any person can be rescued so for
just a second I want you to take
whatever preconceived notions you have
about your situation or about your
marriage and how absolutely hopeless it
might feel and for just a couple of
minutes I want you to think like there's
hope believe that maybe there could be
hope for your marriage as I walk you
through these three things to consider
if you're thinking your marriage might
be over and if you're wanting more
specifics on what your exact situation
is whether there's been affairs or
addictions or personality differences
communication problems whatever it is go
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well you'll find playlists and
categories of tons of other information
that can help you with your specific
situation okay so now that you've liked
and subscribed here's question number
one is your spouse a good person maybe
if your spouse is in the middle of doing
something that is bad right now maybe
they're in the middle of an affair or in
the middle of a gambling addiction or
whatever it might be
ask yourself is my spouse a good person
who's currently doing a bad thing but at
the core of who they are are they a good
person because if your spouse is a good
person then they deserve to be rescued
and your marriage has a shot at making
it work of the thousands of couples that
we've worked with here at marriage
helper and we've helped the worst of
situations the craziest of situations to
have their marriages saved
we see that 99% of people are good
people they really are they've just lost
their way or life has taken them in a
place where they didn't want to go and
they wish that they weren't there now
but they need help being rescued and
coming back to it so that's question one
is your spouse a good person question
two what have you tried so far to try
and make your marriage work a lot of
people when they first encountered that
resistance with their marriage when
problems start to arise and especially
if they continue to happen year after
year maybe even decade after decade they
begin to say you know what we just
weren't meant to be so a lot of times
people don't really try anything there's
this belief in society that we should
just marry the right person and when we
marry the right person things so easily
fall into place that's not the reality
but since that's what society seems to
be teaching us it seems that when we
first run into that resistance we think
well made the wrong decision we just
need to cut our losses start over in a
relationship that's going to be better
for us and that's going to be the
solution to our problems and
unfortunately that isn't what ends up
happening
II
if you do divorce now you're gonna have
problems with the next person because
every marriage has problems no marriage
is perfect and that's because marriage
is composed of two people who are flawed
there's no perfect marriage but you can
learn how to make your current marriage
one that is fulfilling that is
satisfying that's that that reaction
that soul mate love that people talk
about that you have been looking for so
I want to encourage you to try something
and maybe you're thinking well we have
tried stuff we've been to counselors
therapists weekend retreats whatever it
might be and nothing has worked well I
want to encourage you that many people
have gone to counselors or weekend
retreats that really just hit surface
level issues and never get down to the
core issue of what's going on so if you
feel like maybe you haven't had a great
experience with counselors or with
retreats or whatever that might be I
want to encourage you to find a place
either a counselor or a workshop or
something like that that's going to get
to the core of your issues and not just
that surface level stuff that's easier
to deal with really try make sure that
you have tried everything that you can
before you decide to give up on the
marriage and then finally have you
thought about how divorce will affect
your future now I'm not saying that you
should stay married because you fear
divorce that's not the kind of marriage
I want you to have and I'm sure that's
not the kind of marriage you want to
have either but I am asking have you
thought of all of the ways that divorce
will affect you the financial
ramifications the the consequences it
has on family and friends and even
children even the way it's gonna affect
you emotionally have you thought all
those things through we don't want you
making any rash decisions out of your
current feelings and you're not thinking
about how your current feelings and
actions are going to affect you in in 10
days or 10 weeks 10 months even 10 years
be sure
that you're thinking all of these things
through and you may be saying okay well
I maybe I don't want the divorce maybe
it's my husband or my wife who's wanting
the divorce then isn't that a sign that
the marriage is over
and the answer is no just because your
spouse wants a divorce does not mean
that your marriage is over and it
absolutely doesn't mean that you should
give up standing for your marriage in
fact a marriage helper this is our
specialty we love giving encouragement
and advice and tools to the spouses who
are standing for their marriage even
when their spouse is completely
disengaged we can help you we can give
you tools resources we can tell you more
about our coaching and our workshops
that we have but more than anything I
want you to know there's hope for your
marriage so let me ask you this question
what have you tried so far for your
marriage comment below we would love to
hear about what's worked and what hasn't
worked for you we'd also love for you to
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