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Signs Of The End Of A Marriage

contrary to popular belief there's no

sign that a marriage is over

there are signs that your marriage is in

trouble and that it should probably be

looked into or fixed but there's no sign

that the marriage is over and absolutely

can't be saved huh

how can I say this but what if my

husband has had an affair multiple times

what if my wife has left and she's not

coming back she won't even talk to me

what if we just have two completely

different personalities and we married

the wrong people or what if fill in the

blank whatever it might be there are

signs that your marriage might be in

trouble but we believe at marriage

helper that any marriage can be saved no

matter what the current situation is or

no matter what has happened in the past

a lot of times when people are looking

for signs that their marriage is over

many times they walk away feeling more

discouraged than ever before because

while they're looking to see if maybe

their marriage is falling into this

pattern into this ultimate reality this

outcome that they don't want and they're

fearful because they don't want their

marriage to be over but then they read

an article or they hear a podcast or

whatever it might be and every single

thing is applying to their marriage and

it's easy to give up hope but at

marriage helper we believe that any

marriage can be saved and we believe

that any person can be rescued so for

just a second I want you to take

whatever preconceived notions you have

about your situation or about your

marriage and how absolutely hopeless it

might feel and for just a couple of

minutes I want you to think like there's

hope believe that maybe there could be

hope for your marriage as I walk you

through these three things to consider

if you're thinking your marriage might

be over and if you're wanting more

specifics on what your exact situation

is whether there's been affairs or

addictions or personality differences

communication problems whatever it is go

ahead and like and subscribe to our

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well you'll find playlists and

categories of tons of other information

that can help you with your specific

situation okay so now that you've liked

and subscribed here's question number

one is your spouse a good person maybe

if your spouse is in the middle of doing

something that is bad right now maybe

they're in the middle of an affair or in

the middle of a gambling addiction or

whatever it might be

ask yourself is my spouse a good person

who's currently doing a bad thing but at

the core of who they are are they a good

person because if your spouse is a good

person then they deserve to be rescued

and your marriage has a shot at making

it work of the thousands of couples that

we've worked with here at marriage

helper and we've helped the worst of

situations the craziest of situations to

have their marriages saved

we see that 99% of people are good

people they really are they've just lost

their way or life has taken them in a

place where they didn't want to go and

they wish that they weren't there now

but they need help being rescued and

coming back to it so that's question one

is your spouse a good person question

two what have you tried so far to try

and make your marriage work a lot of

people when they first encountered that

resistance with their marriage when

problems start to arise and especially

if they continue to happen year after

year maybe even decade after decade they

begin to say you know what we just

weren't meant to be so a lot of times

people don't really try anything there's

this belief in society that we should

just marry the right person and when we

marry the right person things so easily

fall into place that's not the reality

but since that's what society seems to

be teaching us it seems that when we

first run into that resistance we think

well made the wrong decision we just

need to cut our losses start over in a

relationship that's going to be better

for us and that's going to be the

solution to our problems and

unfortunately that isn't what ends up

happening

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if you do divorce now you're gonna have

problems with the next person because

every marriage has problems no marriage

is perfect and that's because marriage

is composed of two people who are flawed

there's no perfect marriage but you can

learn how to make your current marriage

one that is fulfilling that is

satisfying that's that that reaction

that soul mate love that people talk

about that you have been looking for so

I want to encourage you to try something

and maybe you're thinking well we have

tried stuff we've been to counselors

therapists weekend retreats whatever it

might be and nothing has worked well I

want to encourage you that many people

have gone to counselors or weekend

retreats that really just hit surface

level issues and never get down to the

core issue of what's going on so if you

feel like maybe you haven't had a great

experience with counselors or with

retreats or whatever that might be I

want to encourage you to find a place

either a counselor or a workshop or

something like that that's going to get

to the core of your issues and not just

that surface level stuff that's easier

to deal with really try make sure that

you have tried everything that you can

before you decide to give up on the

marriage and then finally have you

thought about how divorce will affect

your future now I'm not saying that you

should stay married because you fear

divorce that's not the kind of marriage

I want you to have and I'm sure that's

not the kind of marriage you want to

have either but I am asking have you

thought of all of the ways that divorce

will affect you the financial

ramifications the the consequences it

has on family and friends and even

children even the way it's gonna affect

you emotionally have you thought all

those things through we don't want you

making any rash decisions out of your

current feelings and you're not thinking

about how your current feelings and

actions are going to affect you in in 10

days or 10 weeks 10 months even 10 years

be sure

that you're thinking all of these things

through and you may be saying okay well

I maybe I don't want the divorce maybe

it's my husband or my wife who's wanting

the divorce then isn't that a sign that

the marriage is over

and the answer is no just because your

spouse wants a divorce does not mean

that your marriage is over and it

absolutely doesn't mean that you should

give up standing for your marriage in

fact a marriage helper this is our

specialty we love giving encouragement

and advice and tools to the spouses who

are standing for their marriage even

when their spouse is completely

disengaged we can help you we can give

you tools resources we can tell you more

about our coaching and our workshops

that we have but more than anything I

want you to know there's hope for your

marriage so let me ask you this question

what have you tried so far for your

marriage comment below we would love to

hear about what's worked and what hasn't

worked for you we'd also love for you to

LIKE and subscribe to this channel and

we would love to give you hope for your

marriage in your situation

visit us at marriage helper com give our

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help you save your marriage

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