When is it okay to fight
When Is It Okay To FIGHT?
so I've gotten two emails this week from
guys in high school young guys who want
to know when it's okay to fight
apparently specifically with one of
these guys there's a kid at school
that's kind of been egging him on
provoking him and making threats hasn't
done anything physical yet but the
threat of attack is there now for full
disclosure I fought many times in the
past I was a high school kid just like
you in college getting in bar fights
through my experience and wisdom who I
am today
I will share with you my strongest
sentiment and that is your best bet is
not to fight I don't say that like a
corny adults I say that from a place of
sincere experience and and and love
honestly you know because I don't want
to see anything happen to you and fights
are getting weirder and weirder as the
generations go on you know kids carry
razors they carry guns here is what the
big again this is just not corny adult
[ __ ] I'm 33 so I'm I'm getting corny I'm
getting old but the fact is that the
bigger man the stronger man the man with
the more the most courage is going to be
the one that steps up and instead of
attacking preemptively begins preemptive
preemptive peace talks and see the thing
with fighting is that it's mostly done
in a hysterical state you know you're
attacked you don't [ __ ] him thank you
just go crazy and you want to start
fighting throwing arms or you know it's
all emotionally driven there's no
grounding there's no pragmatism it's all
emotion and said react emotionally or
even to to attack emotionally is weak
plain and simple you've lost your head
you've lost your grounding and your
manhood is based in your grounding right
it's down here down below you're up here
you're all fired up you know you're up
here and you've lost your balls when you
stop breathing deep you'll know this
right away he comes around and your
breathing becomes shallow your shoulders
tense all your energy moves up now
you're moving from a place of hysteria
emotion you're not a man at that point
your balls have been severed from your
character what you've got to do is this
when you are in the vicinity or
approaching him take a deep breath
several deep breaths if you can lower
your voice the lower you could look you
can bring your voice down the more of
your grounding you're gonna access the
more manly and in control you will be
more you're up here and you're wild and
you're thinking oh what's up what's up
you're a [ __ ] high-pitched voice a lot
of energy get down get down here down to
your belly down into your balls proach
him and look him in the eye he's gonna
freak the [ __ ] out because nobody
expects this and extend your hand the
next thing you say is very important and
this is gonna be the toughest thing for
you extend your hand and apologize you
tell him that you're still sorry I'm
sorry
that's gonna be your words your very
first words I know you're thinking
Elliott what the [ __ ] what the [ __ ] it's
not me it's him listen you're being the
[ __ ] man right now stand your head
and say listen I want to apologize in
the past you and I have not seen eye to
eye but I want to put an end to it right
now can we do that
with your deep grounded voice look him
in the eye and wait he's nothing to know
what the [ __ ] to do okay if he extends
his hand and shakes you guys shake
embrace him that's it it's [ __ ] over
because men are like that
it's [ __ ] over it's done never to
mention again women they might bag back
and stuff like talk about each other
behind each other's back even though
after they shook hands not men squash it
you squash it if he reacts hysterically
moves up and you'll know this because
you can get real active on top his
breathing will get short if he hits you
you [ __ ] hit him back no question
about it if he hits you after you extend
your hand you hit him back okay
so I've given you two scenarios one he
extends his hand when he hits you you
hit him back there's that's just the
fence the third scenario is he turns his
back on you [ __ ] move on his part what
you've got to do next is very important
go and tell as many people as you can
what happened
explain go to your teachers but of your
parents go to your friends but everyone
listen I went to this guy extended my
hand in peace and it refused here's
what's going to happen next if he comes
at me I'm going to hit him I'm going to
hit him if he comes at so you're
basically you're setting yourself up for
a win because you're letting everyone
know that you preemptively created peace
talks and if he attacks you you're going
to attack him back let the principal
know listen I don't want to fight okay
but I've extended my hand and he made it
known at that point that he's not
interested in peace I'll keep my
distance but if he comes at me I'm going
to tear him apart
okay this is your best case scenario
dude this is the best thing that you can
do being a kid in high school being a
kid in college and a college is a
different story because you start
drinking and all the fighting is beer
goggle beer muscle drinking it's all
stupid high school you know you're
fighting for your position I get that
you will be a bigger man if you use the
scenario I just shared with you share it
with your friends share this video with
your friends all right good luck do the
right thing Elliot said what
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