When is it ok to date someone older
The TRUTH About Dating Someone Older Than You
Heya playa, do you wanna date someone that's older than you but you're not quite sure how
that's going to work out?
Maybe you're not as mature as them, maybe your parents won't let you date them.
There's a lot of questions that come up and in this video, I'm going to tell you exactly
what you need to know.
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Now some people feel that age really is just a number.
There are way more factors than just how old you are to determine if this is the type of
person you should be with.
And in some ways, I can agree.
There are a lot of things you need to consider despite the fact that you two are different
ages.
My main philosophy when it comes to dating is to stick within your school range.
If you're someone that's in middle school, try to date someone in middle school.
If you're in high school, date in high school.
If you're in college, try to find someone that's in college.
I think finding someone at your school level is going to make it easier for you to connect
with that person.
Because you're both sharing similar experiences with each other and that's going to help you
guys bond even better.
Sometimes you might find yourself in a situation where you're an eighth-grader wanting to date
a high schooler or a high schooler wanting to date someone in college.
Those situations can be a little bit trickier because you might not be far apart in age
but you're in different school ranges so what do you do?
Well the fact that the two of you are in different school levels, you also have to look at how
big that age gap is.
Because that's going to help you understand a level of maturity that you're bringing to
the table and the same with that person.
Let's say your focus in life is just hanging out with friends, doing homework, going to
school, nothing really too serious and for them, they're focused on what they're going
to do once they graduate from school, what they're gonna do for work, how they're going
to support themselves, where they're gonna live, all those different kinds of things.
Well yeah, the maturity level between the two of you is way different and it may be
hard for you guys to connect.
Sure, that attraction may be there but you're not on the same wavelength.
Putting all that aside, let's just say the two of you are different ages and you just
want to date someone that's a year or two older than you.
How do you do that without it being weird?
I know the idea of approaching and talking to someone that's a little bit older might
be intimidating, you might be afraid that they're gonna think you're a little kid and
you're not serious about your feelings but it's important for you to put your confidence
on display.
To show them that you are mature enough for a relationship and you want to pursue one
with them.
Realistically, the idea of dating you might not even be something on their radar.
They may only think of you as someone that's younger so you want to change that perspective
in their minds of you.
So the best way to do that is to work on building a friendship with them, talk with them, interact
with them, flirt with them, get to know them better.
The more they can see that the two of you really are on that same page together the
easier it's going to be for them to look at you as a potential partner.
Now there are plenty of other obstacles that are going to get in your way but one important
one that you're gonna wanna address is the public perception behind your crush dating
someone younger than them.
Their friends might make fun of them, people might make comments, people might just think
that your relationship isn't real simply because the two of you are of different ages.
And this may be the definitive reason why that older person doesn't want to date you
as a younger person here.
They're afraid of what people are going to say so the best thing you can do in that situation
is to carry yourself in a mature way.
You're going after someone older and you're showing them that you're a more mature person
so it's important to carry that attitude and aspect in other areas of your life as well
so that no one will tease you guys, make fun of you or come down on you for being different
ages.
And let's be honest here if people have things to say let them.
All that really matters here is that you and that person form a strong relationship together
and the only opinions you should be thinking about are yours, that person and all the parents
involved.
Now bear with me on this because you may disagree but I think it's important for your parents
to be on board with your relationship.
Number one being if you're someone that's underage, you definitely want to have your
parents consent and agreement to you being in that relationship because you never want
to be in a situation where you have to hide your relationship behind your parents back
or lie to them because that's ultimately going to ruin your relationship with them and you
might be doing something illegal so you definitely want to stay away from that.
The question is though, how do you get your parents on board with the idea of you dating
someone older?
When they just flat out tell you no, it's not gonna happen.
So, here's how you can kind of get them to be ok with it.
First off, you're definitely going to want to be transparent here.
If you're hiding things behind your parent's backs or you're lying to them, they're not
gonna trust you and that's gonna make it hard for you to no only get in this relationship
but other relationships in the future.
One thing you can try doing is video chatting with that person and then turning the camera
to face your parents so your parents can kind of say hi to them and they can start building
somewhat of a relationship.
The more your parents know about that person, the more they interact and talk to each other,
the easier it's gonna be for your parents to make an honest and open decision about
it.
It's probably best to talk up your parents, let them know how good a student they are.
The more your parents can see that that person has a goal and focus in life the easier it's
going to be for them to be on board but at the end of the day, you need to respect their
decision.
If they feel like the age difference is too much, don't fight with them or argue.
Recognize that as you get older, things may change.
I know, you really wanna date that person right now but sometimes you really do need
to take that half a year or a year to build trust with your parents to be on board with
you dating not only them but anyone at all.
So, it's a patient game you need to play but it's important to play it right.
And finally, one important thing you have to remember whenever they're an age difference
in a relationship is the power dynamic.
The fact that they're older means that they're more mature, they're wiser, they have more
experience and that can sometimes play a role in your relationship.
You might not think this will ever come to play because you're attracted to each other,
you're soulmates, you're on the same wavelength, all that type of stuff but the age difference
really does matter.
If you ever find yourself in a situation where you don't feel comfortable with what that
person is asking you to do, there's nothing wrong with talking about that to your parents,
to your friends, anyone that you could gain more perspective and advice from.
Remember, you don't have to do anything that you don't feel comfortable with and I know
you like this person but it's important for you to know that.
I'm curious though, what do you think?
Would you ever date someone that's older than you?
Leave your comments down below.
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On that note, I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.
